I really DO have so much to be thankful for in my life. I am
thankful. It’s lengthy, but you’ll hear/see/know my heart through it all.
1. I have been praying for us to be out of debt for quite
some time and we are working diligently towards that goal. Just recently,
someone sent us a sizable financial gift that will help us out tremendously.
2. For over 3 years, I have wanted to convert my living room
color scheme into dark brown and lime green. I have wanted a dark brown leather
love seat, ottoman and chairs to match; it's on my prayer/want list. Two days
ago, I kid you not; a friend was in my house, saw my furniture and said,
"This is the exact color and style of furniture that would look absolutely
fantastic in my house! I said to my friend, well, it's yours, but I am looking
for dark brown leather furniture to replace it. I prayed out loud and told
Father I needed furniture to replace the ones I was giving this friend.
I sent out a mass message to friends (all 13 of them, lol)
in my area telling them my desire to bless my friends and need of a replacement
couch/love seat/chairs and asked them to pray for me. I told my sister this
morning that I would like to give my couch set away today but really do
need/want my living room to have furniture as well.
Father is so amazing! Within 24 hours of sharing with my
friend who wanted our furniture, I received an email stating someone had a
brown leather love seat and chair they would love to give me with pictures
attached. I immediately sent an email to my friend whom I am giving our
furniture set to and said, "When would you like to pick up your
furniture..." and told them what happened. The friend who is letting me
look at their brown leather furniture said I didn't have to take it if it's not
quite what I want." I am so stoked! The joy that is busting out of me is
unreal concerning these two magnificently wonderful miracles. Father loves me
so much and is doing everything to work His will in my life and His other kids!
3. Thanksgiving is my most favorite of all holidays (along
with my birthday), hands down.
Why:
shopping for dinner
planning out the meal
inviting friends, friends of friends, people I don't know
for the meal
the warmth in the home
the fragrances
all the most glorious memories I have from previous
Thanksgivings
making the dishes
glimpses of Keven’s mom and dad (dad passed away 4 years
ago) coming to my mind
as we
prepare food
making sugar cookies for my boys and Aaron
making the darkest chocolate pie Keven loves
making the turkey, Lois peeling the potatoes and visiting
with me, making the dressing, potatoes, gravy, pineapple bread, corn pudding,
sweet potatoes (being sure to darken the edges for George because he loved it
that way)
all the pleasant conversations all throughout the day
seeing family and loved ones
and so much more....
This year there is no shopping, no fragrances, no friends
coming over, no left overs, no hospitality needed on grand, grander, grandiose scales,
no family to visit with in my home (outside of Keven)...yes, this is my reality
for this year...it may seem like I am sad and you know what, knowing some of
the responses I will receive from my 'encouraging'-keep-on-the-sunny-side-of-life-be-joyful-in-all-things
kind of friends, it is sort of sad. Yet, IT IS ALSO a year for something new.
You see, Keven asked if we could do something different this
year. Everything within me screamed and cried out, not to him, "You KNOW
this is my favorite holiday! You KNOW I love to bake, cook, have fragrances wafting
throughout our home, organize and time when the foods need to go in and out of
the oven, shed a tear for lost ones, and for family members I won't get to see,
but remember with great thanks for them in my life! You KNOW I LOVE EVERY
DETAIL ABOUT THANKSGIVING and YOU WANT ME TO GIVE THAT ALL UP because YOU WANT
TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT?"
For weeks I had been asking Keven what we were doing for
Thanksgiving because I was already gathering a list of people to invite (ok
there may have only been 3-4 on the list and they may have already had plans,
but I had a LIST) and it didn't matter to me if anyone came. Having
Thanksgiving Dinner at my home or with others in their home brings sweet love,
joy and comfort to my life.
Thanksgiving Day (though I am thankful everyday) is my day
to offer Thanks to Father by serving, giving, creating, blessing, preparing,
sharing the foods and memories I hold dear with others and make new memories
for the new year.
Now before anyone wants to beat Keven up for taking such a
special holiday away from me or want to beat me up for being ‘selfish’. Here’s
what I have chosen to do:
When Keven explained to me that he wanted to do something
different this year for the holiday. I thought, “uggh, really, why?” I SAID, “Ok, if that is what you want
to do, ok.” Now I have had a week to prepare myself that things are going to be
different today and tomorrow. (Wednesday before Thanksgiving and Thanksgiving)
I also have been speaking to myself aloud and in my mind, “You are deferring to
the wants and needs of Keven. You are giving and showing love. Chin up Wendi,
you can do this. You can give to Keven, bless the socks off him AND make new
memories.”
Again, I do so love the old
memories and memories we would have had this year if we had had Thanksgiving in
our home or with others. I am not trying to recreate the past, but I like the old memories. I love to serve…I love to
serve and bless Keven as well. I like change too.
That my dear ones, is what I am doing this year. I am
deferring and preferring Keven’s desire or want to have a change in our
Thanksgiving THIS YEAR. I am choosing to keep a healthy attitude and happy facial
expressions even though there is some sadness in my heart.
I am choosing joy, mind you, but that doesn’t mean I cannot
feel sadness at the same time and shed an occasional tear. I miss my children,
my parents, Keven’s dad, Keven’s mom, Keven’s family, my sisters, and my many,
many friends who live all over the world. I miss you all terribly, but not so
terribly that I am crippled without you, for that would be unhealthy and unwise.
I do miss you though. I am thankful for all the sweet memories. You have
invested into who and what I am and I am a product of who you are.
Thank you for all the memories and a very happy Thanksgiving
to you, whether you get to do what you want OR
YOU CHOOSE to be unselfish and DEFER TO BLESS AND LOVE SOMEONE ELSE AND DO
SOMETHING FOR THEM.
If the heartbeat in a certain area of your life seems a bit inactive, dull, stagnate or has lost its luster try tuning your drum (the things you are beating, desiring, wanting, needing). A simple turn to the left or right can change the pitch to any drum. If I had chosen to concentrate only on what I liked, wanted and needed for Thanksgiving my drum would sound flat. It would cause other areas of my life to sound flat or be flat.
